4 Reasons You’re Still In Debt

Now that I’m no longer semi-anonymous with my finance blogging, I tend to have a lot of friends and random people asking me finance questions. I have people pouring what seems like their heart and soul to me because they really want to change and improve their situation. This is something that I love about…

Michelle Schroeder-Gardner

Last Updated: February 24, 2025

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Now that I’m no longer semi-anonymous with my finance blogging, I tend to have a lot of friends and random people asking me finance questions.

I have people pouring what seems like their heart and soul to me because they really want to change and improve their situation.

This is something that I love about being a personal finance blogger – the fact that I can (hopefully) help someone change their life and teach them how to manage their money better.

Many of the questions I receive involve debt and what they can do to change their situation.

Someone told me they had over $200,000 in student loan debt, another person recently told me they had over $100,000 in credit card debt, some are hiding their finance problems from their families, some have told me that they are beyond house poor and they don’t know what to do.

The list goes on and on about the stories that I have heard.

I think the first thing a person needs to do when it comes to eliminating their debt is to realize WHY they are in debt in the first place (the next step is to actively reduce your debt – read How To Eliminate Your Debt). If you don’t know what your problem is, then it would be hard to make a positive change.

Yes, it is great to just start attacking your debt, but you also don’t want to fall into a vicious cycle of going into debt over and over again.

Here are some of the many reasons for why you may be in debt.

You think you have plenty of time to pay off your debt.

When I was in the middle of paying off my $40,000 worth of student loan debt, I remember being asked why I wanted to get rid of my student loan debt so quickly.

You know the saying  about how there is no such thing as a stupid question?

Well, I thought that question was extremely stupid. I thought (and still think) it was probably the most stupid question I have ever been asked or heard.

I can’t remember the conversation exactly, but I remember them saying something about how I’m young and I should enjoy my money more and that I can worry about my student loans later.

UMM WHAT?!

Why not just pay off your debt more? Would you really rather have than 100th pair of jeans instead of putting more towards your debt? I know for a fact that I will probably completely forget about an article of clothing (even though I love clothes!) and I will appreciate my debt being paid off more.

I still enjoyed my life while I was paying off my debt, and I definitely do not think I was suffering at all.

It’s been around seven months since I completely paid off my student loans, and I couldn’t be happier!

You also never know what may happen. If you wait to pay off your debt and instead spend your money on things that you don’t need, you may fall into a bad situation. What would happen if you lost your job, came across high medical bills, or something else?

Wouldn’t you have wanted your debt to be gone?


You treat your credit card as income.

Your credit card is not a new income source. If you treat your credit card this way, then you should cancel your credit card.

Oh well if closing your account means that you will be lowering your credit score, you are probably doing worse damage anyways by racking up large credit card bills that you can’t pay.

If you are using a credit card, then you should be working to pay off your balance completely each month.

So-and-so has debt, so it’s fine if you do too.

Many people compare their debt amounts to others in hopes that they will feel more “normal” about their debt and not feel as bad. An example would be if you are 30 and the average 30-year-old has $10,000 worth of credit card debt (I completely just made that number up). You then use this number as a “guide” to yourself so that you can feel more comfortable about your debt.

However, WHO CARES about how much debt another person has? How exactly does knowing what the average amount of debt a  random 30-year-old has affect you?

Is that person you?

NO!

So, why would another person’s amount of debt even matter to you? That makes no sense!

Just because someone else has $10,000 worth of credit card debt from buying too much clothing does not mean that you should too. You never know, this amount may be breaking them on the inside even if they aren’t showing it.

You believe you deserve the items you buy.

Yes, you may be awesome and think you deserve it, but should you really be buying it? Just because someone else just bought a 100 inch 3D TV (or a mansion, nice car, gadgets, a crazy-expensive wedding, etc.) doesn’t mean that you should as well.

You might think “oh well they have a comparable job to mine, so, if they can afford, then I can too.”

However, you have no idea how this person is paying for it. Maybe they saved for years, or maybe they are just putting everything on their credit card.

I recently talked to someone who has over $100,000 in credit card debt and I could tell they were in panic mode. They bought way too much house, way too much car, way too much everything. They thought they deserved it all since others were buying something similar.

You don’t need to keep up with the Joneses!

There are many ways to cut down your spending. Below is a quick list:

  • ATM fees. Why do people do this to themselves?
  • TV. Cut your cable, satellite, etc. Even go as far to go without Netflix or Hulu. Buy a digital antenna (this is the one we have) and enjoy free TV.
  • Sign up for a website like Ebates where you can earn CASH BACK for just spending like how you normally would online. The service is free too! Plus, when you sign up through my link, you also receive a free $10 gift card bonus to Macys, Walmart, Target, or Kohls!
  • Pay bills on time. This way you can avoid late fees.
  • Shop around for insurance. This includes health insurance, car insurance, life insurance, home insurance and so on. Insurance pricing can vary significantly from one company to the next. When we were shopping for car insurance last, we found that our old company wanted something like $205 to insure one car for one month, whereas the new company we have now charges $50 a month for the same exact coverage. INSANE!
  • Save money on food. I recently joined $5 Meal Plan in order to help me eat at home more and cut my food spending. It’s only $5 a month (the first four weeks are free too) and you get meal plans sent straight to you along with the exact shopping list you need in order to create the meals. Each meal costs around $2 per person or less. This allows you to save time because you won’t have to meal plan anymore, and it will save you money as well!
  • Fuel savings. Combine your car trips, drive more efficiently, get a fuel efficient car, etc.
  • Trade in your car for a cheaper one. For us, we are car people. Cars are one of our splurges. However, if you only have a nice car to keep up with the Joneses, then you might want to get rid of it and get something that makes more sense.
  • Live in a cheaper home. I’m not saying you need to go live in a box, but if you live in a McMansion then you may want to think about a smaller home. This way you can save money on utility bills and your mortgage payment.
  • Use a programmable thermostat so that you can heat and cool your home efficiently and more affordably.
  • Learn to have more frugal fun. We don’t spend anywhere near the same amount of money on entertainment as we used to. There are plenty of ways to have frugal fun.
  • Check out my recommendations page for a full list on money-saving websites.

Some ways to make extra money are below, but check out the related articles below to see many, many more:

  • Start a blog. Blogging is how I make a living and just a few years ago I never thought it would be possible. I made over $320,000 last year by blogging. You can create your own blog here with my easy-to-use tutorial. You can start your blog for as low as $3.49 per month plus you get a free domain if you sign-up through my tutorial.
  • Sell your stuff. There are many things you can do to make money by selling items. We all have extra things laying around that can be sold, or you can even search for items that can be bought and resold for a profit.
  • Rent an extra room in your home. If you have extra space in your home, then you may want to rent it out. Read A Complete Guide To Renting A Room For Extra Money.
  • Answer surveys. Survey companies I recommend include American Consumer OpinionProOpinionPinecone ResearchOpinion Outpost, Survey Spot, and Harris Poll Online. They’re free to join and free to use! You get paid to answer surveys and to test products. It’s best to sign up for as many as you can as that way you can receive the most surveys and make the most money.
  • Use Swagbucks for your online searches. Swagbucks is something I don’t use as much, but I do occasionally earn Amazon gift cards with very little work. Swagbucks is just like using Google to do your online searches, except you get rewarded “Swagbucks” for the things you do through their website. Then, when you have enough Swagbucks, you can redeem them for cash, gift cards, and more. You’ll receive a free $5 bonus just for signing up today!
  • Try InboxDollars. InboxDollars is an online rewards website I recommend. You can earn cash by taking surveys, playing games, shopping online, searching the web, redeeming grocery coupons, and more. Also, by signing up through my link, you will receive $5.00 for free just for signing up!
  • Find a part-time job. There are many part-time jobs that you may be able to find. You can find a job on sites such as Snagajob, Craigslist (yes, I’ve found a legitimate job through there before), Monster, and so on.

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Why are you in debt? What reasons have you caught yourself using?

If you’re feeling extra brave, please share how much debt you have (house, car, student loans, credit cards, etc.).


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Hey! I’m Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and I am the founder of Making Sense of Cents. I’m passionate about all things personal finance, side hustles, making extra money, and online businesses. I have been featured in major publications such as Forbes, CNBC, Time, and Business Insider. Learn more here.

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  1. Jason B

    The majority of my debt is from student loans and not getting focused on it earlier. I was very uneducated on loans back in the day and made a few mistakes. I am actively trying to pay things off now though.

    1. Michelle S.

      You can do it Jason!

  2. Lauren

    My student loan debt was only 4 figures, which seemed small compared to others. I didn’t get serious about paying it off for several years- I just kept thinking I’d get to it someday. Luckily, I finally wised up and tackled it! I’m now debt free and it feels amazing. I know people who have that “I work hard, I deserve it” attitude, and I just want to tell them that they actually deserve the awesome feeling of relief and freedom that comes with being debt free instead 🙂

    1. Michelle S.

      Congrats on being debt free!

  3. Brian @ Luke1428

    After many years of paying off school, car and home loans we will be completely debt free next month…the mortgage being the last thing to go. It’s a long journey that can be painful at times. I don’t plan on ever going back.

    1. Michelle S.

      Good job! Next month is very soon 🙂

  4. Dave @ The New York Budget

    One of the most frustrating sentiments that I hear with regards to saving is “yeah, but I want to enjoy my money while I am still young enough to do so” – this assumes that without excess spending, life is not enjoyable, which isn’t true in the SLIGHTEST.

    1. Michelle S.

      Haha I know! People act like I am miserable and they use that as their reasoning to spend like crazy.

      I like my life, I don’t know why people think I wouldn’t! Just because I am careful with my spending does not mean I am miserable.

    2. Stephanie@Mrs.Debtfighter

      I agree!! Once you start focusing on paying off your debts, you realize there are a lot of things that you thought you needed which you really don’t! We are a youngish couple (32 and 34) and hope to pay off our mortgage within a few years. We splurge occasionally and travel/camp but I will be able to “enjoy” the money when there are no payments to worry about! 🙂

      1. Michelle S.

        Yes, there are so many things that people think they need and they actually don’t! Thanks Stephanie!

  5. MMD

    That last point is the most dangerous. No one is “entitled” to buy themselves anything. Until you can buy everything you need for the month/year without a credit card as if you only had cash each month to work with, then you’re not ready to make luxury purchases.

    1. Michelle S.

      I agree!

  6. Stephanie

    Nothing feels better than the loans being all paid off! Happy dance!! I think the 3rd one was a big problem for me – alllll of my classmates had the same law school debt. $15k (just tuition) a semester times 6 semesters? No one paid for that out of pocket. And a lot had undergrad debt too, which I didn’t. So I trapped myself into thinking “Natalie has debt too, it’s twice as much as mine! and she married someone with debt too! She’s way worse off, it’s fine.” But her debt has nothing to do with me.

    1. Michelle S.

      Happy dance!!

      And yes, I know what you mean. I would compare my debt to others so that I would feel better about myself. But, I still had a lot so that was stupid!

  7. Jessica

    I have about 3k in credit card debt, 20k in my new car loan, 0 in student loan right now… my credit cards will be paid off next month 🙂 my car loan is something I put a lot of time and consideration into and I bought a car with 10k miles on it with full coverage on any repairs for the next 5 years so I think it was a good choice at 2% finance rate. I do however hope to pay it off about a year or two early while saving some money for a down payment for my house/apt/probably a closet in NYC right now lol but hey doesn’t hurt to try!. ALSO for the first time ever I am taking out student loans about 15k for 6 semesters which I don’t think is too bad considering I will probably enjoy a 20k salary increase once I finish. Food for thought but I think the best mentality to have is weighing out the pro’s and con’s before signing yourself to owe money.

    1. Michelle S.

      Sounds like you have a good plan Jessica!

  8. Debt and the Girl

    The whole entitlement syndrome is such a dangerous mindset. You can really end up on the financial edge just because you want to keep up with your neighbors. the truth of the matter is no one knows how other people are really affording those nice things. Best to focus on yourself and not worry about others.

    1. Michelle S.

      Yes, you just never know how people are paying for things, so you shouldn’t try to keep up with them.

  9. Andrew@LivingRichCheaply

    That picture is hilarious…free soda for applying for a credit card! With the amazing bonuses for credit card sign ups…this free soda takes the cake! I’m in student loan debt…but it is manageable and it probably increased my earning potential.

    1. Michelle S.

      Haha I know. I hope no one signed up just to get the soda.

  10. Michelle S.

    Yes, personal finance blogs are what really helped me change my life around! 🙂

  11. Michelle S.

    Haha yeah I’m not sure if that photo is real. I really hope it is not.

  12. Michelle S.

    Yup, I never thought twice about my student loan debt either. I just considered it normal and took out a ton.

  13. Michelle S.

    Sounds like you are doing well Charlie 🙂

  14. Michelle S.

    I’m glad you are doing something about it Catherine 🙂

  15. Michelle S.

    I agree!