Now that I’m no longer semi-anonymous with my finance blogging, I tend to have a lot of friends and random people asking me finance questions.
I have people pouring what seems like their heart and soul to me because they really want to change and improve their situation.
This is something that I love about being a personal finance blogger – the fact that I can (hopefully) help someone change their life and teach them how to manage their money better.
Many of the questions I receive involve debt and what they can do to change their situation.
Someone told me they had over $200,000 in student loan debt, another person recently told me they had over $100,000 in credit card debt, some are hiding their finance problems from their families, some have told me that they are beyond house poor and they don’t know what to do.
The list goes on and on about the stories that I have heard.
I think the first thing a person needs to do when it comes to eliminating their debt is to realize WHY they are in debt in the first place (the next step is to actively reduce your debt – read How To Eliminate Your Debt). If you don’t know what your problem is, then it would be hard to make a positive change.
Yes, it is great to just start attacking your debt, but you also don’t want to fall into a vicious cycle of going into debt over and over again.
Here are some of the many reasons for why you may be in debt.
You think you have plenty of time to pay off your debt.
When I was in the middle of paying off my $40,000 worth of student loan debt, I remember being asked why I wanted to get rid of my student loan debt so quickly.
You know the saying about how there is no such thing as a stupid question?
Well, I thought that question was extremely stupid. I thought (and still think) it was probably the most stupid question I have ever been asked or heard.
I can’t remember the conversation exactly, but I remember them saying something about how I’m young and I should enjoy my money more and that I can worry about my student loans later.
UMM WHAT?!
Why not just pay off your debt more? Would you really rather have than 100th pair of jeans instead of putting more towards your debt? I know for a fact that I will probably completely forget about an article of clothing (even though I love clothes!) and I will appreciate my debt being paid off more.
I still enjoyed my life while I was paying off my debt, and I definitely do not think I was suffering at all.
It’s been around seven months since I completely paid off my student loans, and I couldn’t be happier!
You also never know what may happen. If you wait to pay off your debt and instead spend your money on things that you don’t need, you may fall into a bad situation. What would happen if you lost your job, came across high medical bills, or something else?
Wouldn’t you have wanted your debt to be gone?
You treat your credit card as income.
Your credit card is not a new income source. If you treat your credit card this way, then you should cancel your credit card.
Oh well if closing your account means that you will be lowering your credit score, you are probably doing worse damage anyways by racking up large credit card bills that you can’t pay.
If you are using a credit card, then you should be working to pay off your balance completely each month.
So-and-so has debt, so it’s fine if you do too.
Many people compare their debt amounts to others in hopes that they will feel more “normal” about their debt and not feel as bad. An example would be if you are 30 and the average 30-year-old has $10,000 worth of credit card debt (I completely just made that number up). You then use this number as a “guide” to yourself so that you can feel more comfortable about your debt.
However, WHO CARES about how much debt another person has? How exactly does knowing what the average amount of debt a random 30-year-old has affect you?
Is that person you?
NO!
So, why would another person’s amount of debt even matter to you? That makes no sense!
Just because someone else has $10,000 worth of credit card debt from buying too much clothing does not mean that you should too. You never know, this amount may be breaking them on the inside even if they aren’t showing it.
You believe you deserve the items you buy.
Yes, you may be awesome and think you deserve it, but should you really be buying it? Just because someone else just bought a 100 inch 3D TV (or a mansion, nice car, gadgets, a crazy-expensive wedding, etc.) doesn’t mean that you should as well.
You might think “oh well they have a comparable job to mine, so, if they can afford, then I can too.”
However, you have no idea how this person is paying for it. Maybe they saved for years, or maybe they are just putting everything on their credit card.
I recently talked to someone who has over $100,000 in credit card debt and I could tell they were in panic mode. They bought way too much house, way too much car, way too much everything. They thought they deserved it all since others were buying something similar.
You don’t need to keep up with the Joneses!
There are many ways to cut down your spending. Below is a quick list:
- ATM fees. Why do people do this to themselves?
- TV. Cut your cable, satellite, etc. Even go as far to go without Netflix or Hulu. Buy a digital antenna (this is the one we have) and enjoy free TV.
- Sign up for a website like Ebates where you can earn CASH BACK for just spending like how you normally would online. The service is free too! Plus, when you sign up through my link, you also receive a free $10 gift card bonus to Macys, Walmart, Target, or Kohls!
- Pay bills on time. This way you can avoid late fees.
- Shop around for insurance. This includes health insurance, car insurance, life insurance, home insurance and so on. Insurance pricing can vary significantly from one company to the next. When we were shopping for car insurance last, we found that our old company wanted something like $205 to insure one car for one month, whereas the new company we have now charges $50 a month for the same exact coverage. INSANE!
- Save money on food. I recently joined $5 Meal Plan in order to help me eat at home more and cut my food spending. It’s only $5 a month (the first four weeks are free too) and you get meal plans sent straight to you along with the exact shopping list you need in order to create the meals. Each meal costs around $2 per person or less. This allows you to save time because you won’t have to meal plan anymore, and it will save you money as well!
- Fuel savings. Combine your car trips, drive more efficiently, get a fuel efficient car, etc.
- Trade in your car for a cheaper one. For us, we are car people. Cars are one of our splurges. However, if you only have a nice car to keep up with the Joneses, then you might want to get rid of it and get something that makes more sense.
- Live in a cheaper home. I’m not saying you need to go live in a box, but if you live in a McMansion then you may want to think about a smaller home. This way you can save money on utility bills and your mortgage payment.
- Use a programmable thermostat so that you can heat and cool your home efficiently and more affordably.
- Learn to have more frugal fun. We don’t spend anywhere near the same amount of money on entertainment as we used to. There are plenty of ways to have frugal fun.
- Check out my recommendations page for a full list on money-saving websites.
Some ways to make extra money are below, but check out the related articles below to see many, many more:
- Start a blog. Blogging is how I make a living and just a few years ago I never thought it would be possible. I made over $320,000 last year by blogging. You can create your own blog here with my easy-to-use tutorial. You can start your blog for as low as $3.49 per month plus you get a free domain if you sign-up through my tutorial.
- Sell your stuff. There are many things you can do to make money by selling items. We all have extra things laying around that can be sold, or you can even search for items that can be bought and resold for a profit.
- Rent an extra room in your home. If you have extra space in your home, then you may want to rent it out. Read A Complete Guide To Renting A Room For Extra Money.
- Answer surveys. Survey companies I recommend include American Consumer Opinion, ProOpinion, Pinecone Research, Opinion Outpost, Survey Spot, and Harris Poll Online. They’re free to join and free to use! You get paid to answer surveys and to test products. It’s best to sign up for as many as you can as that way you can receive the most surveys and make the most money.
- Use Swagbucks for your online searches. Swagbucks is something I don’t use as much, but I do occasionally earn Amazon gift cards with very little work. Swagbucks is just like using Google to do your online searches, except you get rewarded “Swagbucks” for the things you do through their website. Then, when you have enough Swagbucks, you can redeem them for cash, gift cards, and more. You’ll receive a free $5 bonus just for signing up today!
- Try InboxDollars. InboxDollars is an online rewards website I recommend. You can earn cash by taking surveys, playing games, shopping online, searching the web, redeeming grocery coupons, and more. Also, by signing up through my link, you will receive $5.00 for free just for signing up!
- Find a part-time job. There are many part-time jobs that you may be able to find. You can find a job on sites such as Snagajob, Craigslist (yes, I’ve found a legitimate job through there before), Monster, and so on.
Related articles:
- 75+ Ways To Make Extra Money
- 10 Ways To Make Money Online From The Comfort of Your Home
- 10 Things I’ve Done To Make Extra Money
- Ways To Make An Extra $1,000 A Month
Why are you in debt? What reasons have you caught yourself using?
If you’re feeling extra brave, please share how much debt you have (house, car, student loans, credit cards, etc.).
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Yes, it is a sickness!
I remember doing those same things when I was in debt. I was young so I would be fine. I can pay these things off no problem. Blah, blah, blah. Only you have the power to change your situation. Great article Michelle!
Thanks Grayson! 🙂
Coming to terms with your debt can be such an overwhelming process. Even when you do understand the why and how, it doesn’t mean that paying off debt is easy. It’s a long hard journey for most of us. I’m so glad I found this community of bloggers to enjoy the ride with.
I’m so glad also! I love the blogging community 🙂
I seriously don’t understand the I-deserve-it mindset. What makes you feel entitled to everything you want? You only deserve what you can afford!
I agree!
Never again Tonya! 🙂
Love this article. I love that it deals with what is really going on behind the mentality of debt. I believe changing your mindset is the first step to becoming debt free….just saying.
Thank you! 🙂
I decided to go to my first choice college and luckily it was also the one that gave me the most financial aid. But those years still came with student loans. I started out at 36k and am currently at 26k after about a 8 months (part of it was a lump sum). But knowing that I’ll be free from those experiences soon enough is what keeps me working harder and harder everyday. And I hate, absolutely detest when people say live life a little, you are only 23. Yes, but it’ll be even better when I’m 25 or 26 and have no debt.
I went to my first choice college and it gave me good amount of financial aid. My second choice though gave me much more and for some reason I turned it down. I still kick myself over that!
P.S if you haven’t yet, make sure to read my follow up post today 🙂 https://fund-rise.live/2014/02/how-to-eliminate-your-debt.html%3C/a%3E%3C/p%3E
I currently have about $95,000 in student loans from attending a for-profit school (have been paying for 4 years). Naivety is the only excuse I’ve used for that. I also had a couple thousands of dollars worth of credit card debt because when I found myself un(der)employed, I often resorted to paying rent with a credit card. Not my proudest moments but that debt has been paid off.
My husband and I, collectively, have about $15,000 left on our car loan we got last year after needing a new car when my beater bit the dust. We also have about $4000 in credit card debt because my husband is a big spender. When he was scheduled to go on a last minute deployment in November (it was cancelled), he went and bought himself a $2500 gaming laptop. When my video card stopped working he bought components to build a brand new computer instead of replacing my video card. We opened this credit card only a few months ago to help him build his credit after he paid off debt that was in collections. He obviously doesn’t know how to use it and never seems to hear me when I tell him we can only purchase things we budget with it. I’m currently at a loss with this one.
Hey Kasey! I’m so sorry about money issues with your husband. It can be a tough one. Have you really sat down and talked to him about this? Of course, try not to scare him because it sounds like he sees money differently than you.
I’m not sure if this is even helpful, but here are some articles that I quickly found.
http://money.usnews.com/money/personal-finance/articles/2012/09/06/the-best-ways-to-prevent-money-arguments-with-your-spouse
The comments on this one may be interesting – http://www.daveramsey.com/article/the-truth-about-money-and-relationships/
Great post, Michelle!
Thanks Emily!
I am a firm believer that you don’t “deserve” anything, you can only “earn” things. My mother in law is like that and it drives me crazy. It doesn’t surprise me that she’s in debt!
Yes, you can only earn things. Thanks Marvin!
What are you doing to eliminate your debt? 🙂
Michelle, I think you just managed to hit every excuses so many of us have but would never say. This is the typical American way of thinking that got this country in debt. Plain ole’ financial illiteracy that doesn’t make sense. I can see why this post made it to so many round ups.
Thank you Peter 🙂
I’m pleased to say that I have roughly $2 left on a credit card and then I’m DONE! Analyzing why I got into debt originally is tough but I’d probably say I spent too much time thinking I’d pay things off in the future. I lived in the now, but borrowed from the future to do it. What a fool I feel for that now (though hopefully I’ve learned my lesson).
I am $68,000 in debt. This includes my student loans $54k, car loan $9k, and credit cards $5k. My credit cards will be paid off by April/May of 2015.
Good job on having a plan to pay off your credit cards Mei.